Tutu Madness

So, I was doing my usual browse on yahoo, looking at some of the articles and whatnot until I came across this specific one.. “Is facebook sexualizing young girls?” The article was pretty much about how young girls seemingly have begun dressing, and posing rather provacatively at a very young age do to the fact that they are trying to gain popularity, or “likes” on facebook from friends, to guys, to popular kids in high school. At the end of the article a question was posted and I thought before I posted my response on there, i’d post my response on here.

The question was: “Does social media encourage tweens and teens to act inappropriately sexual? Or is it just another stage on which the usual teenage popularity contest plays out — one that parents are more aware of only because its online?”

In my opinion it is the media, and the parents.

I believe i’ve made a post similar to this before, but with what is shown in the media, all these models who look like toothpicks rather than people, all these stupid reality shows like “Keeping up with the Kardashians” or “The bachelor” and more shows all seem to put a bar onto how females should look. Thin, yet curvy, 70 trillion pounds of makeup, extensions etc, and when young girls see this and see the guys of their age get aroused at these things, the girls lower themselves and try to make themselves look like that, even if they are only 13. They wear skimpy dresses, god knows how much makeup, and its all just to get the kind of attention they want to feel secure with themselves, but in reality the fact that they are looking for some type of security makes them insecure, and if media didn’t show all this ridiculous crap of how a female should look in this day and age, young girls wouldn’t take a look at themselves in the mirror and see they don’t look like that, then go out of their way, lower themselves, dress up like complete whores and try to meet that bar. What’s even worse is the fact that these girls are exposed to this kind of bullshit since they are young, with what they see on tv and it gets imprinted in their minds that they HAVE to look like that. So already from a young age, girls begin without realizing to feel insecurities, and these insecurities grow more and more the older they get.

Its their parents fault too. If their parents paid attention to what their daughters are doing online, what they are watching, etc they’d see how it effects their kids, and they wouldn’t let them go that extra mile and begin looking like a complete skank starting at the age of 13. Parents also need to help their kids understand that no matter what happens, they need to learn to accept themselves for what they have, instead of cry and slave over what they don’t have, and it doesn’t seem to me that parents nowadays do that, if they did, this issue wouldn’t be as big of an epidemic as it is.

As John Grey, author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus says, “Women are like waves.”

Why? Why are we like waves? Well for one our moods, and our feelings about ourselves change constantly. One minute we may feel like we are the happiest gals in the universe then we’ll feel like things couldn’t get any worse. We may feel like the most beautiful goddesses that walked this Earth, then the next moment we feel like we aren’t even worth anyones time.

and people think women are sane….

The thing is though, a lot of people (men especially) don’t get that. They think we are ridiculous when we begin to feel insecure about ourselves. But we aren’t. That is just the way we are. Some women of course are worse than others, but the severity of that insecurity stems from our personal pasts.  I am one of those women who really hits rock bottom when insecurities begin to eat at me, and that has a lot to do with the kind of past I had, and same goes for others who have it just as bad, or even worse than I do. 

Men NEED to understand this concept, and know that the minute we hit rock bottom when we feel like ugly peices of shit, they need to take action, and help us overcome it. No guys, we don’t do it for the attention -_-, We do it out of our own control. Considering things we see on the media, and our pasts, there is no stopping it.  You guys gotta be ready to deal with it when our waves come crashing down.

Some guys think its pointless to even try because it happens so frequently. Well sorry guys, us women can’t always stay so high and mighty like you want us to -_- we have a lot of moments where we feel like we are on top of the world, and we have many moments where we feel like absolute dirt. Not worthy of anything, or anyone. Guys gotta learn to embrace the highs, and fix the lows.  Of course we as women will have difficulty stopping the waves from crashing down, but in due time it will get less, and less till its to a point where it hardly happens, it may not ever completely go away, but definitely lessen.

That. is. all.

I don’t understand kids these days. Scratch that, I don’t understand teenage girls who are in such a rush to grow up. I mean honestly, 13 year old girls, look more like they are 30 nowadays. So many things I don’t understand:

1. Why the hell are you wearing 7 inch pumps to parties?

2. Why are you drowning your skin in 70 pounds of makeup?

3. What are you trying to accomplish by flicking people off in your pictures?

4. What the hell are you doing wearing acrylic nails? 

5. Why the HELL are you shopping at forever 21, and fitting yourself in the shortest, and tightest of dresses? 

You are ONLY 13. There is no reason for you to do all these things to yourself at such a young age. For one wearing such high heels that you can barely walk in at such a young age will screw over your back in the long run. I’ll be honest, I myself didn’t even start wearing heels till i was about 20, and i’m not talking about freaking 10 inch heels, i’m talking about barely 4 inch heels, that I sometimes even struggle to walk in. 

MAKEUP is another huge problem. Why the HELL are you caking your skin with so many chemicals at such a young age? In the long run, you will have wrinkles by the time you are 22. I just BARELY started wearing eyeliner when i was 14, and even when i turned 18 and i began to wear coverup and mascara, i NEVER TILL THIS DAY, have ever caked my face in makeup. When you youngins do it, it doesn’t suit you at all, it makes you look odd. 

PICTURES. Why are you flicking off the camera? What did that camera or the person that is even looking at the picture ever do to you to deserve such an obscene sign. It doesn’t make you look, cool, or sexy, it makes you look like a complete idiot quite frankly. 

FAKE NAILS. Really girls? Really? Might I remind you that you are still VERY young. Even me at 21, i have NEVER put on fake nails EVER in my life, nor do I plan to. And mind you that acrylic glue DESTROYS your nailbeds like its nobodies buisness.

and last but not least the clothes you girls wear. Honestly, you are sooo young, dressing like a complete skank when you are only 13, isn’t going to get you anywhere. Sure you’ll get the boys you want, but you won’t be getting them for the right reason. They’ll see you, talk to you, use you, and toss you aside, and that will be a never ending circle for you. I mean.. unless thats what you want. 

The point is, i’m not trying to be mean, i’m just being honest. Its true. You girls really need to slow down on the growing up, trust me your day will come when you can do all of that, but you are in such a hurry to grow up its almost as if you don’t even really live your life as a 13 year old when you are 13. More like a 30 year old in a 13 year olds body. 

To be quite honest as cliche as this may sound, I blame the  media for this hurry to grow up. From a very young age, the media drills into these little girls heads a certain image they need to live up to as females, and as the ages climb from lets say about possibly 7-13, girls are surrounded by all this bogus crap, and when they hit the teen years, they are already so insecure about themselves, that they feel the need to live up to that image, and wear weapons as heels, and damage their nails, their skin, and all together their self image. This needs to be put to a stop. Its ridiculous. 

Parents also play a big role in this. Girls can see all these things in the media, and believe thats what they have to live up to, but its up to the parents to make the girls understand that what they see in the media is all bullshit, nobody really looks like that in real life. These are the things that little girls see, that make them feel so down on themselves, which leads them down this ridiculous path of feeling the need to be in a rush to grow up, and feel the need that they need to be “sexy” and “hot” when they are only 13.

Teen years are hard, nobody said its easy, but you girls need to try hard and not succumb to what the media portrays, but be happy with what you have, and in due time, even when the time comes to be able to do all these things, you can backup and take a look at yourself and know that you don’t need it. 

(but its never okay to flick off the camera, just saying.) 

(and don’t listen to what boys tell you. boys are stupid :p)